Case Story 1: The chef, the boss Chen, was not in a relationship with the boss, was not in a state of affection and was often worried by drinking, but he was not good at drinking. He often angrily threw things or cheated his wife after drinking a few glasses of yellow soup. Sometimes he quarreled with the boss, and he regretted it the next day. His family was almost broken by him, and finally he became a doctor under the quit of his daughter.
Case Story 2: Xiao Zhang is the chief executive in the company, under one person and above thousands of people. Unexpectedly, the company collapsed later and lost his backing. In 3 or 5 years, he has been resolving his faults by drinking. Every time his family relationships are getting worse, he falls into a bad cycle, becoming severely depressed, and he cries at the doctor in a slight way.
Psychiatricians found that there are many "depressed and mature men" in this category, especially in Taiwan, the current climate is not good. Many men are unemployed in middle-aged people or are treated as personal use due to the company's labor constraints. The burden on work has increased and the pressure is heavy.
Often people think that self-discipline neurology, anxiety, and panic are women's "specialties". In fact, men also do, but men are easily suppressed and therefore ignored.
Cai Mengzhang, a psychiatrist in Changgeng, Kaohsiung, said that men are afraid of being seen as fragile, and most of them will not easily vomit when encountering problems, and they will be held in the heart until they can't bear it, becoming prone to getting angry, irritable, and impatient. Some people even drink alcohol or use substances.
The male empty nest period cannot find the family locationShang Jiazhang, a psychiatrist at Yida Hospital, said that after a famous boss took over the iron factory, he changed his wife to do odd jobs and carried the housework. Every time the child asked for money to buy things, he felt that he was spending money. The couple often had conflicts over this, and in the end the child left home with a bad temper. His wife blamed him for being in trouble when he got home. He thought his family looked down on him and began to have symptoms such as chest tightness, headache, disgust, and vomiting.
"This is another male empty nest period." Shang Jiazhang said that in the past, women regarded their families as "world". When they were 5 or 60 years old, women went to work or recite books in other places, resulting in the phenomenon of "empty nest". Men who focus their lives on their jobs may have a "empty nest feeling" due to middle-aged unemployment, and after returning to their family, they will not find their own position and become incompatible, which will become stressful.
Either you are just a doctor or a wrong science departmentCai Mengzhang's clinic also encountered many mid-life crisis cases. Some small and medium-sized enterprise bosses want to take over the factory, but they are afraid of affecting hundreds of employees' families and making them feel sad. Some university teachers are struggling to recruit students, write papers and promote. However, more than 90% of men in Taiwan will not express their worries and can only rely on close friends to observe their opinions.
When men encounter midlife crisis, they are unhappy. Some people are so depressed that they affect their daily routines. What's bad is that these people feel sick. Psychiatrists said that when you find that you are not focused, unable to eat or sleep, thinking about hypochondria, sensation, vomiting, trembling hands, chest swelling, unstable blood pressure, stiff shoulders, unable to urinate, panic, sweating, irritability, depressed sexual function, poor sexual function, guilty, or difficulty in thinking, you must be careful.
He said that many men with physical and mental symptoms either have to be stressed or have medical treatment or have to go to the wrong department, seek treatment in the thoracic department, cardiology department, and gastroenterology department, or even have emergency diagnosis. Repeated examinations are normal, but the symptoms just have not improved.
Happy explanation for middle-aged men"Mid-life crisis is inevitable. If you learn to avoid misfortune, you can find a happy explanation for happiness." The doctor suggests that a mature man should have a normal schedule and exercise regularly, and find out his own problems and positive factors.
1. Find your own interests
Cai Mengzhang suggested that enthusiastic mature men do more things they are interested in, such as listening to music, playing chess, reading books, going out for a walk, or seeking comfort from religious power. When volunteers do some repetitive work, they can make their hearts calmer. The time for every effort is still impossible to improve, it is time to be a medical practitioner.
2. Learn about self-timer
"Be good friends and be kind to yourself, so that you can have a way to take good care of yourself." Shang Jiazhang said that if you learn to arrange your life, you will naturally not go to the door if you are worried. You can also do essential oil massage, sprint exercises, and run to relax yourself. He recommended "3M Theory" to preserve the current (MOMENT) beautiful memory (MEMORY) through the action of interest (MOVEMENT), allowing emotions to ejaculate and the mind to be washed away, which is a kind of self-habilitation.
3. Movement increases serotonin
Shang Jiazhang said that when people are anxious and insomnia for a long time, the serotonin in their bodies will decrease. Once the orthogonadminister and serotonin in neurotransmitting substances is lacking, it will affect the body's operation. And exercise can increase human serotonin, secrete brain pherma, and make the body feel happy.
4. Family support and hearing
"Of course, family support is more important." Cai Mengzhang said that many men over 40 have no interest in stress and have no close friends. When your wife or close partner finds that the person on the pillow is often angry, insomnia, and dazed, you might as well ask him to take a walk after dinner, which can add some serotonin and give him a chance to think calmly and expose his worries. At this time, my wife does not need to give any advice. Just listen and accompany her, and give her empathy according to her husband's words. In this way, my husband will feel that my wife understands me, and the more she vomits, the more she will relieve the pressure.