Note: Chocolat, a 64-year-old Japanese blogger, divorced at the age of 47, began to live alone. She shared her experience of "pre-organizing" over the years on her blog, as well as home skills that can enjoy a comfortable life without spending a lot of money. Her monthly views reach 600,000. Now all the items in her home are things she "really needed and likes". "Substantially, she will become more energetic by reducing unnecessary items."
From the living space, one can often see a person's lifestyle. To Chocolat (ショコラ), "living alone" is where she starts a new life.
Divided 5 years later, I bought a single apartment with a bedroom, one living room, and only 12 square meters. It has been 17 years since then. "When I left my ex-husband's house, I only had one chair, three clothes boxes and a few necessary items for my luggage. But with my own home, I liked to be chaotic at home and bought clothes. I don't know if I'm tired of it, I'm getting more and more things."
At the age of 60, I saw that I was already full of all kinds of things. In the house of miscellaneous objects and furniture, she thought to herself, "If I get old and lose energy, or if I have any accidents, the two sons will help me organize these things." In order not to make the children trouble, instead of waiting until they are old before doing "tidying up", she decided that it would be better to start "tidying up before they are still strong."
She first started with large furniture and eliminated too bulky seats, five-door cabinets and other items, and the old refrigerator was no longer used, and it was also replaced by medium-sized sizes suitable for 1 to 2 people; then there were clothes, shoes, bags, tableware and kitchenware that were easier to organize. "As long as you don't have any way to move, you've almost done anything."
In the past, I would no longer wear the suits and suits I needed to go to work. Some of the clothes bought when I was young are no longer suitable for me. First, after abandoning these two types of clothes, then gradually eliminate them, leaving only the clothes you like and feel comfortable to wear, and will continue to wear in the future.
If she is reluctant to throw away the clothes she may still wear because of high prices, or she will put in a special suitcase as a "reservation zone" and open the viewing 2 or 3 times a year. "Usually, I have almost forgotten these clothes when I look back. At this time, I can lose them without hesitation. If I still can't make up my mind, I will continue to put them back in the box."
It took two years to complete my home stay. Now there are only about 60 pieces of clothes left in Chocolat, only about 40 pieces of tableware for my own use, and less than 10 pieces of furniture at home. In the process of re-viewing and reluctance, only what you really like and need are left behind.
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"After sorting it out, if you recognise the value of the items to yourself, you will cherish what you left behind more. Even if your life is simple, you can feel rich and fulfilling."
Switching to light-quantized small packages to reduce waste costs and be more convenientIn addition to reducing the amount of items around you as much as possible, because when you live alone, Chocolat mostly changes to choosing small-sized and small-volume packaging when buying daily necessities, flavorings or ingredients. Not only does it save storage space and easy to use, it can also be eaten under fresh conditions to avoid waste due to out-of-term.
In the past, she bought beautiful but heavy brand-name bags in the OL era. Now when she chooses to buy bags and items in her body, she regards "light quantification" as the most important consideration. Such as folding slabs, temperature bottles, leather squeegees, money bags, etc., they are all converted into mini, lightweight materials and sizes.
After she divorced, she returned to her job. With the savings from working in the hostess era, she has finished her mortgage within 10 years. Now she works for four days a week, and her monthly expenses are controlled within 120,000 yuan (about NT$34,000) (about NT$34,000). After deducting the necessary water, electricity, gas, and building management fees, she will collect the monthly meals and living expenses in two small packages. Just take a look and you can see how much the budget for this month is.
After the number of items at home decreased, she no longer urged shopping and became a habit of living a simple life. If she uses a credit card or swipes a card to spend money online, she will withdraw the cash from her money bag and save it back to the bank, so that she will not feel that she will spend money.
Re-viewing the days that are suitable for oneself in social lifeAlthough life is simple, Chocolat, who has lived alone for more than 20 years, has never felt lonely and has even applied the principle of quality and weightless organization to the interactions of international relationships.
and friends from high school maintained a monthly lunch gathering and also met some online groups composed of single women on social software. When buying an apartment, many of the same residents were single women of the same generation. Occasionally, everyone would contact each other in a close manner, saying that if they had any needs, they could help each other. In contrast, friends who feel pressure during the period, or who always dissipate unpleasant atmospheres will gradually maintain a distance.
"Maybe it's because of my age, I gradually stopped comparing with others, and then felt inferior or flirting. Even those who seem to be glamorous on the surface may have unknown difficulties. So there is no need to admire or be jealous of others. Within my own abilities, it's better to live the days I like.. ”
She would arrange the gatherings of friends and children, or the time she would go back to her parents' home on the Christmas Day, and she would not leave the whole day. Don’t wear makeup or wear comfortable clothes, and take a look at your favorite books (most of them are borrowed from the library, which neither takes up space nor spends money) or TV shows, and spend a day of relaxation.
The age of dying after age is a testimony thatMany people will ask Chocolat: Don’t worry about your life alone in your old age, and no one will take care of you?
In this regard, she said: Instead of worrying about not knowing whether things will happen, it is better to spend every day in front of you. It is also a way to prepare for the old age. Sometimes she complains to her mother that she is old, and she will say, "What are you saying? You are still young." Chocolat's mother is 90 years old this year. She has lived alone for more than 10 years since her husband passed away. She still cooks and swishes by herself, and reads newspapers every day.
She has prepared to regard her current home as an old residence. Whenever she really needs someone to take care of her, she can also sell her house and live in a nursing home.
Chocolat likes the Japanese drama "The Second Counter Love" in the Japanese drama "The Second Love", the hero of Koizumi, who is 46 years old, said when she was born today: "There are 2 meanings of birthdays: one is to wish you this day when you are born in the world, and the other is to wish you still live well at this moment. Very Many people don’t like birthdays after they have an age, but the older they are, the more they should celebrate their birthdays! Every till is a proof that you have worked hard until now. "
Don’t feel sad about the age of age, but because of enjoying every day that comes from the past, you will be able to be satisfied with your life.
Original text: Make "old sorting" while you are still strong! The simplicity of a single blogger at the age of 64: Life is smaller and better